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    May be leaving for a while

    Not absolutely certain. I have children and to control the internet in the house I've implemented site-blocking technology that works really well. Some guys use it to keep themselves accountable.

    I personally am trying to cut porn out of my life (tears shed) - all I find then is that everything else becomes like porn (sexy commercials, catalogs, just seeing a sexy women on the street) but I think that is the way it is supposed to be.

    Anyway, long story short - with my current rules many things are blocked and I have only two exceptions - shapings.com (where I like to source my wife's hose from) and here now. It is stored centrally in a server. I may give my wife keys to the controls too. She doesn't know about the Den. I had mentioned it long ago, but doesn't know I frequent it still.

    I am thinking of removing the exception, which would block me from all of you wonderful people - you feel like family so it makes me a little sad.

    Yet, it is 2am here - I am up thinking of sweaty feet as my wife drifted off, and since I am porn free, the den is the only source. I need some sleep.

    I wish there was a way to just hang out with everyone here in 'real life' (I hate that term, this is as real as the rest of it)- maybe we should all arrange a get-together... London perhaps? Just tell our family and friends we are part of a secret society and having a convention.

    The purpose of this post is just to signal my intention. I almost didn't add the exception, but thought it would be rude to just disappear. I'm not really looking for rebuttals to my core point: I feel hypocritical trying to enforce porn-free life to my teenager (he's been busted four times now and lost his cell phone) and then secretly sneaking off to the Den to get my jollies at night (because even reading 'her feet smelled good' sends me on a joyride mentally or enjoying the thoughts of our sexy female population). Then again, feel free to weigh in as long as you respect my choice and judgment for what is best for my fam and being a man of integrity.

    I'll be sure to reply to this thread if / when I remove the exception as a way to say goodbye, but still here for a spell. I'll probably be back after a period (would be awesome if I could bring my wife along next time).
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    God Of Footsniffing sacurason's Avatar
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    I think you should tell your wife, not because of porn, but because you have some sort of emotional connection to this place. Since you keep mentioning her, I assume that some part of you wants to let her in on it anyway.

    So we're counting written erotica as porn? If you are, I'm not entirely sure how to help, but otherwise, you could always block the video clip and photo section of the site, which I suppose would help some.

    And finally, I would still argue that unless porn is really impacting you negatively, that it's not in and of itself a bad thing. But it's your life.
    "It's an indulgence to sit in a room and discuss your beliefs as if they were a juicy piece of gossip." -Heinlein

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    Yes, I would talk with your wife. Otherwise, you could use a proxy, so the server will be "fooled". Go search it. But talking with your wife would be my first thing to do. Good luck
    It's not about the foot actions, but about the story behind it.

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    Thanks for your replies.

    Yes the Den feels like a second home. My departure wouldn't be permanent. I've got a whole lot to say on pornography's impact on us, as I've fought through issues personally with it and trying to teach the next generation to find and navigate a healthy way to channel urges. In order to do this, I'm temporarily just cutting off channels of things that lead me down the same path. And yes, erotic text has been a vector for me to depravity since reading and writing on alt.sex.fetish.feet in the Usenet days. What is invoked in the imagination can be just as if bit more powerful than what the eye can see.

    As you noted though, it is somewhat if it is bringing any harm to oneself or others. The real issue is seeing or admitting it. I'm speaking for myself only here, not moralizing to anyone else. If anyone does read this and it gives contemplation or reflection, fair enough but that isn't my intent.

    As for my wife, maybe some day. It's really not a big goal of mine. I've got much more important fish to fry. Sorry if I was misunderstood there that this was some sort of conflict. It's truly not but thanks for the advice all the same.

    (And apologies in advance, sort of in a mood)
    Z̷̪̼̖͙̜̺̹̍̀̓̏̈́̈́̑̚A̠̟̒̏͑ͫ́͞͠L̦̰̠̦̂̀̕G̴̲̪̫͕̜̱̤̞͋̓ͤ ͩ̌̔O̞̹̭̣͍̩̅ͫ̀ ̶̧̙͍͙̠̣͕͉̭ͨ̍̅ͨ̽̊̀̀̈́͜-̡̤̬̚ ̸̧̯̲̬̻̥̞ͥ̋͢H̟̜͈̤̞̼̝̝̆̆̀͘͞E͍̙ͥ̒͘ ̧̯͔ͫ̌̾ͣ̅C̑͋̈́̇ͮ̌͆͏͍̜̝̹͕̯̩͘Ǫ͈̠̎͠͝M͈͓͔͖͍͖̫͒͂̿̓̒ͦ̌͊̿͠ ͞Ḙ̗͚̏̅͑̎̒͊̍́̚Ș̻͉̉ͭ͊̈͆͌͛

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    Ooh, I read what you guys meant above. Yes, I meant tell her about a forum of people who love the same thing as me and when we do our London convention, that's where I'm going. Not share the dens URL. That's all.

    Okay, and... that IS all. Tough to do - will miss you guys and gals greatly. until I return, I am OOD (Out Of Den).

    Cheers and don't sniff anything I wouldn't sniff!
    Last edited by spiral; 15-01-2016 at 02:46 AM. Reason: Farewell message
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    A London convention already happened and three people went; and one of those people was so late that he arrived just in time for the others to pay for their food and go home.

    Spiral, if you truly are going... All the best! I'm sure I speak for others when I say you'll be missed, and I absolutely speak for myself. Do what you have to do, and come back to us when you're ready.
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    Fair enough, and farewell! Take care of yourself!
    "It's an indulgence to sit in a room and discuss your beliefs as if they were a juicy piece of gossip." -Heinlein

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    Just stopping in to say hello. Figured this was the lowest profile place to say hi.

    I miss everyone here. May use Tor or similar to visit more often.

    I have wrestled my demons as they say. I'm a true perv and was getting out of control in so many ways I can't divulge and felt like a hypocrite telling a teenager to do as I say not as I secretly do, so needed to prove to myself it was even possible. Just wanted to make it clear wasn't saying den or porn bad, just was especially for me.

    Cheers
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    Glad to see you again. Using tor or something similar may lead to more trouble. I'm glad to see you are doing well. Forgive my concern in regards to what you feel you must do to access the den.

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