Well, let's not beat about the bush. I'm sick to death of this forum as it currently stands.
I love DOSF and have come to think of some of the people here as my extended family. That said, DOSF is a virtual ghost town and has been for several years. I've always said I don't care how many members we've got, as long as the forum is serving its purpose - and I still stand by that. If I thought DOSF was where it needed to be, ten members and one post a week would satisfy me... but the forum is not serving its purpose.
I want DOSF to be a good place for everybody; to be "foot fetish friendly" and specifically "SMELLY FOOT fetish friendly" but not to be ruled by those topics. I want this to be a place where people come to belong, not to dominate or be dominated. I want relationships to form here, not agreements between prostitutes and their clients. I want DOSF to help people out there to feel at ease with their fetishes and with their sexuality in general, and to go forth into the world, searching for happiness with confidence and honesty.
Right now, we've got prostitutes, sock sellers, dominatrixes, perverts, authors of atrocious fiction, consumers of atrocious fiction, and a handful of real people sitting in the middle desperate to be heard over the deafening chorus of "Buy my socks, slave!", "Who's feet are smellier? Britney Spears or Christina Ricci?", "I am a guy looking for a girl to dominate me with her feet!", "VISIT MY WEBSITE, PIG DOG MALE SCUM!", and "I need advice about how to cheat on my wife / bullshit my sister into letting me smell her feet / approach strangers in the street about selling me their used pantyhose."
If anybody wonders "Why do women never join DOSF?" or "Why do women sometimes join DOSF but drift off after a couple of posts" or even "Why are 90% of the people on DOSF either after your money or one step away from a prison sentence?" that's the sad, honest truth of the matter... If you're a well-rounded, nice person, joining DOSF is not worthwhile. If you're a normal woman who just wants to come here to chat, learn about foot fetishism, or even discover their OWN fetishes without having to trudge through a mailbox that is every day filled up with inappropriate requests, sexual propositions, and pictures of men's penises... you're out of luck.
I've seen women join DOSF, get a virtual mob of welcomes on their first post, and when it turns out that they're not interested in posting a dozen pictures a day or meeting anybody for nights of foot fetish debauchery, they get dropped like a hot potato. I've seen women who have only to identify themselves as female for the "SHOW FEET" requests to begin.
That you people do that, make people feel like that - and on a website I've been involved with for 18 of my 31 years on this planet... makes me hold my head in my hands and despair.
In the words of the Eleventh Doctor, NO MORE.
Thoughts are VERY welcome - but I cannot sit still with this. DOSF must evolve or it will die - and if it can't evolve, it will die at my hands - I know I've threatened to close down before, but this time I'm serious. I'm not mad, I'm not suicidal, I'm not throwing my toys out of the pram... I'm just saying that DOSF in its current form is utterly pointless and completely contrary to what I think it should be in my heart. There are plenty of places you can go to talk about feet. There is only one DOSF. We could be fantastic. Instead, we're a cesspit of pornography, prostitution, and arguing. My mission it to make that change, and if I can't make it change, be what it should be, be sucessful, I will not hesitate to close it down and move on with my life.
DOSF's busiest day in the last five years was when a gentleman disagreed with my moderation technique and decided to register that disagreement by spamming us with a thousand threads filled with "NIGGER". That's a wildly depressing statistic that genuinely makes me wonder if there is any genuine need to continue.
I've already started by doing something I should've done long, long ago... I've deleted that horrific London foot fetish prostitution thread and I will permanently and immediately ban anybody attempting to create a replacement for it. Figuring out which seedy massage parlours have the most desparate, stinky-footed Chinese masseuses is NOT what DOSF is about and I'm not going to have that crap on this board one more second.