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Thread: Do the majority of men with a foot fetish just like to be dominated?

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    Quote Originally Posted by cheeseman66 View Post
    I had always assumed that they went hand in hand, although never articulated it because yanno that would feed into a stereotype pushed on foot guys. However with the recent freedom to explore that my new relationship has brought to me I am finding I can often get far more from feet when I am being dominant - It is a nice way to enjoy and savour feet as well as just take them and use them as I see fit.

    I am a pretty switchy guy though, so still go bananas for submitting to feet.

    My view that it is a submissive act has changed though.
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    I honestly think it depends on your culture and simply what turns you on, being in to other fetishes myself and sharing my thoughts on them with other fetishists has proven to me that you might be talking about the same thing but you never appreciate it in the same way.

    The first time I remember being turned on by anything feet related was when my teacher was reading Homer’s the odyssey to the class, there’s a scene were Odysseus in old man disguise is getting his feet cleaned by one of his servants, in my head the servant had the power and when I get my hands on a girl’s feet it translates like if I were rubbing her other private parts so feet to me are a symbol of power.
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    I love to dominate to other people and I'm a man. I love when somone gets down and worships my nylon feet after a long day! I can actually be pretty mean.

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    i think so, but not sure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by feetluverr View Post
    i think so, but not sure.
    The multitude of responses in this thread have already proven that the answer is NO.
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    for me it depends on the woman, can go either way depending on their personality

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    Umm.. no maybe lose control but not out-right dominated and I'm the queen of "out right dominated" so no- Sorry please insert another quarter an play again.
    Majority of men would just like to get what they want - whatever that is - end of story.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ergleburgle View Post
    The multitude of responses in this thread have already proven that the answer is NO.
    Correct - how have you been long time no speak. (Not hijacking)
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    I definitely lean towards the "being dominated" scale.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoddessMelanie View Post
    Correct - how have you been long time no speak. (Not hijacking)
    I'm doing a lot better now, thank you. You've been a bit scarce around these parts... Nice to see you again!

    In the interests of not hijacking... There's a surprising amount of good sense in this thread, although you have to wade through a sea of semen to get to it.

    A thought occurs... I suspect at least some (not all - for some people, submission is indeed the root of the fetish) of the "submissive" tendencies in foot fetishists are actually subconscious safety mechanisms at work. Think about it. You love feet, but you feel like a weirdo for liking it... So you submit to your girlfriend who "forces" you to worship her feet against your will - you get feet, and you get to vigorously protest their presence.

    My own personal "variant" on foot fetishism isn't about submissive or domination. And while we're on the subject... [GRAMMARNAZI] People are not "dominate" - people are dominant, and dominant people dominate submissive people. [/GRAMMARNAZI]

    It is about mutual enjoyment. I have discovered that my foot fetish really "happens" when my partner is enjoying herself. I don't want to be dominated, and I don't want to dominate - I just want us both to become closer through shared, positive experiences of sexuality.

    (Recently, I had the pleasure of playing a little "submissive" and I did enjoy that... but that is role play. Role play is fun, but it's not the only way to enjoy sex. When I'm playing, I can be the most obedient little dog you could ever hope for... but when I'm being me... well, one person here knows what that's like.)

    I think OP is saying "foot fetish" when they actually mean "femdom fetish" - which is a completely different kettle of fish.
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    IMO being submissive is a sub fetish of foot worship. As stated, not everyone likes to be dominated, even though I do enjoy these experiences.

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    As an explanation for at least some of the submissive tendencies that seem to go along with foot fetishism, ergleburgle's subconscious safety mechanism theory is intriguing. The perceived "weirdness" of loving feet (and in particular of loving to smell feet) must be dealt with in some way, I suppose, so why not unconsciously resort to some nifty (and often sexy) anxiety-lessening gambits? The theory also makes sense, I believe, when applied to popular representations of foot fetishists. It definitely seems that the submissive male, cowering in ecstasy under a foot, dominates (sorry to get cute) popular representations of those of us who love feet, and these are no doubt often crafted by people who don't even really have a foot fetish and therefore feel even more determined to somehow deal with the perceived weirdness of the phenomenon. I don't mean to denigrate submissives here -- in my eyes, their foot fetishism is just as legitimate and admirable as all the other varieties.

    For my part, I don't think the power dynamics of dominance-submission overtly shape my foot fetish (sure, sex is always wrapped up in power, and hopefully in a playful way, but that doesn't mean that everything about it has to pivot around dominance/submission). For me, smelling a woman's feet is a way to share something deeply intimate: her scent! As several other people discussed, it's often extremely difficult for a woman to let someone sniff her feet, and it therefore can be an act of incredible vulnerability and generosity. I tend to respond to that with increased affection and gentleness -- though admittedly that often takes the form of vigorously smelling a foot with every ounce of energy I possess!

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    My foot fetish is all about being dominated and verbally abused. Nothing gets me going more than hearing a female (or male, for that matter) verbally abuse me while forcing me to sniff their feet. I surrender totally to their needs and desires without question.

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    Submissiveness isn't a sub-fetish of foot fetishism; it's completely separate and unique - though it seems that a lot of people *arrive* at foot fetishism through submission; the concept of being humiliated.

    A foot lover loves feet. He doesn't want to be abused, humiliated, or dehumanised. He doesn't want his dignity taken away. He just loves feet. I just love feet. It's not about domination, or humiliation - it's about being happy.

    As an explanation for at least some of the submissive tendencies that seem to go along with foot fetishism, ergleburgle's subconscious safety mechanism theory is intriguing. The perceived "weirdness" of loving feet (and in particular of loving to smell feet) must be dealt with in some way, I suppose, so why not unconsciously resort to some nifty (and often sexy) anxiety-lessening gambits? The theory also makes sense, I believe, when applied to popular representations of foot fetishists. It definitely seems that the submissive male, cowering in ecstasy under a foot, dominates (sorry to get cute) popular representations of those of us who love feet, and these are no doubt often crafted by people who don't even really have a foot fetish and therefore feel even more determined to somehow deal with the perceived weirdness of the phenomenon. I don't mean to denigrate submissives here -- in my eyes, their foot fetishism is just as legitimate and admirable as all the other varieties.

    For my part, I don't think the power dynamics of dominance-submission overtly shape my foot fetish (sure, sex is always wrapped up in power, and hopefully in a playful way, but that doesn't mean that everything about it has to pivot around dominance/submission). For me, smelling a woman's feet is a way to share something deeply intimate: her scent! As several other people discussed, it's often extremely difficult for a woman to let someone sniff her feet, and it therefore can be an act of incredible vulnerability and generosity. I tend to respond to that with increased affection and gentleness -- though admittedly that often takes the form of vigorously smelling a foot with every ounce of energy I possess!
    This post is glorious, and not just because it references me!

    The general conception of foot fetishism is that the fetishist desires to be humiliated, and feet are the most direct way of doing that. Feet are disgusting. Nobody *wants* feet; they want to be dominated by feet, to be made to feel inferior. The concept of "being at [someone's] feet" is as old as time itself and is centered around the feet being the lowest point of the human body. It's about power, it's about willing submission. With just a handful of exceptions that prove the rule, men with foot fetishes are portrayed in the media as worshipping feet, as if the feet are almost incidental to the act and that the focus is on the worship.

    I have never "worshipped" feet, or for that matter, anything at all, in my life - any more than you have "worshipped" a glass of orange juice on a hot day, or "worshipped" a plate of your favourite food when it is presented to you for your dinner. "Worship" in its most simple definition means to honour an object; to objectify - whether that be a statue, a God, a foot, or a bowl of Weetabix, the premise is the same. "Worship" also implies submission; to prostrate yourself in reverence before the object of your worship.

    I wonder what Average Joe would prefer to "admit" in mixed company; he enjoys domination (which has at least mainstream comprehension) or that he actually enjoys feet as a visual, physical experience - the way they look, the way they taste, the way they smell? I'm reasonably sure that the former position is an easier one to take. For some reason it is "more acceptable" to submit to something disgusting than it is to enjoy something disgusting. And that's the mainstream view of feet; they're a body part that serves a purpose. They sweat, they smell, they get dirty, they get worn out. They are hard-working, long-suffering, and depending on who you ask, they vary between "they're just feet" all the way through to "OH MY GOD, GET THEM AWAY FROM ME, UGLY FUCKING FEET ARE GROSS!!!" and every variant in between.

    I can certainly enjoy the dominance/submission aspects of a sexual relationship - and sometimes in a context of foot fetishism - but they're NOT the same thing, they're not related to each other, and it is not the case that one cannot exist unless the other is present.
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    Well I was in my usual hangout just before and there was a Halloween party. Here I was on the floor at the feet of a beautiful woman, while onlookers were gawking at her beautiful feet and gorgeous long legs. This gave me a rush beyond belief

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    oh man, try to find good feet porn that doesn't have the "You like this don't you slave? smell my stinky smelly soles you peace of shit of a person" i think 90% of feet porn these days it's all about that. i mean, it just gets boring.
    what happened to the simple stuff where a girl have smelly feet and it's kinda of embarrassed in a situation or just casually enjoying alone or with other person whitout the domination aspect? i know it's a bit off topic but i guess it says something... there's a loot of people into the sub stuff with feet.

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    For me it is a submissive act .

    I also like the fantasy of being made to smell and lick feet and shoes while in bondage, or being kept in chastity .

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    As a man who loves men's feet it's both for me. I have fantasies about being submissive wherein the foot is strong and I want to be beneath the heal of a man and made to serve. I also have fantasies simply surrounding the foot that don't revolve around being dominated at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shadowkitten View Post
    My ex used to grab my ankles when he wanted to be dominate. It's once the girl is laying down you can pretty easily be the one in control if your holding her feet, unless she's gonna like sucker punch you to let to of them she can't even get up.
    Yes, I think of it as a very sexy game and it varies between giving and taking. My wife has told me she loves when I'm commanding or forceful, when I grab her legs and ankles and force her feet across my face. In that case, I'm more dominant and forceful. When she offers them to me (one of my favorite moments), I can just accept it and it is such a gift. This is neither dominant nor submissive. She has forced them across my nostrils when she wants me to orgasm - but it is always playful. I guess in our relationship, I'm the more dominant one and that is what we both expect.

    Even if I'm laying down on the bed and she is giving me a blowjob, if I grab her legs or ankles and sniff them, it feels dominant. If she swings them up there, it feels like a gift and can be submissive on her part. It definitely feels more submissive if she is on her back giving me a blowjob and I demand her feet by grabbing them.

    I do know that submissive configurations can be found for some - it's just neither my wife nor I are interested in it, nor any girl I ever dated seriously and enjoyed the fetish with. That being said, I could quite easily imagine seeing it in by visiting a dominant professional into the foot fetish. For me, I don't really enjoy that like others - it would feel like such a game for me I would have severe trouble playing. I could, however, see myself being drawn into it a sniff at a time if I found a woman or women extremely sexually attractive, they wore pantyhose lots of days, and i didn't expect it - like this classic story: http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/stories/c...chapterid=9284
    The overwhelming power of smelling nylon feet and the desire to ejaculate could possibly enslave me (not sure) - it's just no woman has ever seemed interested in this, thus I'm spoiled at just enjoying whatever I want without a dangling carrot nor stick - just mutual exchange of pleasure.
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    for me, my foot fetish started as me just thinking women's feet were pretty. then i had a roommate who used to leave her stinky flats out and i started sniffing them and jerking off. then i got hooked on STINKY feet and shoes (especially flats). then the fact that i was smelling them secretly made me feel somehow "left out" or something, and that has led to more fantasies of being dominated or somehow humiliated.

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